What’s your purpose?
Purpose is the reason we journey. Passion is the fire that lights our way.
Many of you know the past few weeks, I’ve spent my days in a courtroom supporting a friend. Not just a friend—a best friend of 17 years. In 2014, her younger brother’s life was tragically taken at the age of 31 by another individual. A senseless crime that has forever changed the lives of so many. Now, a year later my best friend has to relive this horrific nightmare at the murder trial.
The only time I’ve been in a courtroom was for divorce, and this my friends was nothing like that. A large courtroom, twelve jurors, a man in shackles and handcuffs and a family still mourning the loss of their son, brother and boyfriend—it was as if I was dropped into a horrible scene of Law and Order. As I sat in the back of the room, I quickly became familiar with the do’s and dont’s. No chewing gum, cell phones OFF, no reading the paper, the only beverage that is permitted is water and in a plastic bottle.
Regardless of the rules and the time commitment. I knew I needed to be there. I knew that traveling to another state to sit in a courtroom for the last 2 weeks was my purpose. I knew I couldn’t bring her brother back, nothing could. But what I could do was give her support. I woke up every day knowing that’s what I needed to do. My daily purpose was to support my best friend and her family.
My question for you: What drives you to get up every day?
We have a daily purpose and we have a life purpose. Today, here and now, is where your life is.
This moment is your life…take it! If you make a choice to immerse yourself fully into this moment–appreciating, enjoying and loving what is right here, right now—you will experience joy that you’ve never experienced before. Even better, you’ll feel more alive than ever. It’s called living with passion.
Our life isn’t just about growing up, getting a job, getting married, having kids, going on vacation, retiring and dying. There’s more to life than going through the motions of what we think we should be doing.
I believe that we’re each on earth for a special purpose, and that life purpose is up to you to determine. It’s your focus, determination and intention. It’s the reason why you’re here. What legacy do you want to leave?
Why does purpose matter, why is it so important?
A purpose sets the framework for our lives—it’s our master plan. Knowing our purpose helps us define our goals and keeps us off the hamster wheel. We refrain from getting caught up in the day to day drama that can drain us physically and mentally.
You choose your purpose, not others. It emerges from an exploration of what you value the most. Knowing and identifying your values is the first step. If you don’t know them then you’re basically taking on other people’s values and living other their priorities instead of yours.
I meet a lot clients who feel lost. Lost because their marriage has ended, they’ve lost a loved one, they’re celebrating a milestone birthday or changing a career. There are millions of reasons people feel lost. They have no sense of direction or purpose in their life, it’s usually because they don’t know what’s important to them. They’ve lost sight of their values.
The reality is, life has a way of showing us our purpose—if we would only listen. Most of us have a few activities that we truly love doing.
Determining your purpose is a process. It’s not an overnight exercise. It’s knowing yourself, your values, your strengths and your passions. Your ultimate purpose is merging your passions and your strengths.
TIP: What activities do you love? Write them down.
When you’re defining your purpose in life, don’t get caught up in how you’re going to achieve it. Start by determining what direction you want to go in. Opportunities will begin to present themselves, but the key is to be open to them. Surprisingly, these options are already in your lives, but you didn’t notice them because you weren’t paying attention. Defining your purpose helps you focus.
Your purpose fills you with passion. It can be something simple that’s your daily purpose or it can be as large as in your life purpose. No matter what, be mindful and live each day with purpose.