Half full or half empty?

What’s your perspective?

I believe that we all come from different places, but end up where we are meant to be. Our life is a journey, always changing and evolving. When I was young, I dreamed about my journey—going to college, getting a great job, getting married, having a family and living happily ever after. Fast forward a bunch of years…I’ve had a successful corporate career, but I’m divorced, a single parent and living far away from my family and friends (which isn’t quite what I had envisioned). But you know what…I wouldn’t change ANY of it, even if it isn’t the perfect picture I had planned on.

Our path is ever-changing because we are continuously evolving. And that my friends, is a good thing. I moved to the CT Shoreline in 2012 and knew one person. Fast forward to 2014 and I am surrounded by some amazing friends who I now consider my family.

There are moments in our lives when we can easily give up, throw in the towel and say “why me?”. I like to look at those as opportunities to SHiFT how we see see things. Look at the same situation two different ways and you’ll see two different perspectives. The question is what do you see—the good or the bad?

In October 2014 I had a vision to build a cycling studio. Numerous people thought I was crazy and that it would NEVER work. With my passion, my commitment and my “I can do this” attitude I set out to find a space. Just before we were slated to start construction I was told we couldn’t move forward. In shock, I could only say, “WHAT???” So I took a step back [and a breath] and was determined to find a new space. After all…where there’s a will there is a way. BAM!  I found a second space and this one was better than the first. Unfortunately, at the 11th hour the second space fell through and it wasn’t going to happen…again.

Seeing the situation—divested and disappointed I met up with a friend for a workout session. And it was there in the middle of crowded gym that I said, “Maybe I should give up on this cycling idea? I mean seriously what am I thinking…I should be happy with what I have and stop pushing the envelope.” My friend looked at me with this OMG WTF look…and said, “Are you kidding me? Why would you give up on your dream?” She went on to remind me that this was my passion and my dream and that it wasn’t time to give up. My friend helped me see the situation differently, this was an opportunity to change the way I was looking at the situation and a chance to change the filter. So I took a step back and realized she was right. So I asked all of my SHREDDERS and they emphatically agreed that I shouldn’t give up. The power of my community came through. I started getting emails and text messages from my entire SHRED team until one fateful message finally came through that was perfect—the future home of SHiFT.

This experience has been an exercise in perspective for me that helped show me we are truly all one team, helping each other to build a community. We are continually challenged, but the difference is how we look at our situations. Will you SHiFT how you see, SHiFT how you feel and ultimately SHiFT who you are? Believe in the beauty of your dreams. If you can dream it you can do it!